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Originally Posted by Rive.
I find it concerning that you 'made' her stop seeing her best friend. In a healthy marriage or partnership, couples ought to be able to have their own sets of friends and/or activities. Having one partner decide who their spouse can and cannot see is abusive imo.
If she was already sad and depressed, no wonder this would hit her hard. Not only now does she feel cut off and isolated as you cut off a social source of support for her but you now want her to enjoy activities that you enjoy?
There is nothing wrong with her having different hobbies. How about you learn to cook and share what she likes to do?
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The Friend got too close for comfort; I was OK for the friendship until they got too much attached to each other; He was married and successful with 2 kids; and he connected like a soul mate for my wife.
U can say that my wife was in love with this men; he was calling and meeting everyday; she become distant to all her cousins and friends and they could not pass a moment without each other; This was hard for me because he is part of my extended family.
I knew his family well and did lots of Christmas, BBQ and vacations together with his family.
Its just later I learned that he became distant from his wife as she wanted her own freedom; This in a way took my wife away from me because he was looking for a companion to invest time and attention in and my wife it seems was a perfect candidate.
I know I took away her best friend and turned her life upside down; but I just do not know any other way to find peace with myself.
I am just trying to find a way to I reach that same level of connection with her as her friend?
She seems depressed for losing her best friend and person she connected to most emotionally; and I struggle everyday to find a reason to do the right thing and make peace with myself