So therapy today was what I expected. She told me everything I was aware of, and the one question I did have, she was unable to answer.

I was advised to come up with a backup plan instead of waiting for him to make the move.. and to focus more about what I need to do.

We know we can't change anyone nor can we get them to become more aware, learn, or understand someone else's point of view. My perspective of our situation is vastly different than my partner's. Both of our needs are not being met and I don't think he will ever come to realize how his behaviours have impacted me. He wants me to move forward and leave everything else behind. Had I not been in my situation, I would have left already.

I don't have or know of any backup plans.

I don't plan on writing that letter, with hopes the board members won't turn it over due to his long history living there, plus having family there (who are also on the board). I'll have to read the laws around that. My partner is still requesting I write it, regardless.

If I could afford to move elsewhere, I would. I live in the most expensive city. I don't drive so I'm limited.

That's all I've got. I'll be a struggling single parent with 2 young children I won't be able to see as often.

The alternative? Keep my mouth shut. Give him the attention, reputation, and intimacy he wants.. and not expect to have my needs met.

That's all I've got.