I am sorry being so tedious but I am trying to understand what exactly does he say in his his raised voice (I have a father who liked to pick fights out of nothing so I am trying to understand if it’s the same thing, if yes there is nothing you can do but ignore and “grey rock” or leave or wait when he gets old and mellows down). What does he say in his raised voice: “how dare you ask me? “ “Why do you ask me when I am eating?” What does he say? What words?