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Originally Posted by comrademoomoo
I totally agree with this. Increasingly, I am aware that my attention to what my therapist says far outweighs her attention to what she says. Our sessions hold much more significance for us than they do for them so it easy for us to highlight their inconsistencies or contradictions. The reality is that humans are messy and we are not in therapy with robots - not yet at least. Obviously this is often confusing or painful or destabilising for us, but hopefully the therapist is skilled enough to work through that with us.
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Yes, I find your post very insightful.
More and more I'm getting that therapists want to assess our feelings (and how they feel with our feelings) rather than specific events in our lives. Also, therapists are (or are supposed to be) constantly examining their own reactions and how effective their reactions are to the work they're doing with clients.
In other words, we might be wondering why t doesn't remember exactly what she said during a specific session, whereas she is focused on whether he overall technique is working, or not.
More than anything it seems to me that therapy teaches us how to effectively communicate with others. Like, it's not nice to threaten murder when someone is weird about sending emails
