I was with someone with bpd for fifteen years. She is the mother of my daughter. It is basically impossible to communicate with her. I am so sorry this partner is being cruel to you. Do you have any place you could go to get away from this abuse?

Just in my own experience, these people do not ever really change, unless they get into serious treament and want to get better and have a better, less painfiul life. Mine has always refused. She would rather live in her dissociated, unreal, nonfactual universe and pretend like everything is perfect, because it is familiar to her.

Sending you strength and hugs.