He does love his work.. .he loves the field. And it's not my place to push him to switch jobs or careers, though i don't think that's what you're suggesting. But I am not interfering. And he feels stuck where he is. He does not feel he can do much else. He has 20 years of experience in his field. He wishes he could be wealthy, but its' a pipe dream, like it is for most people. He feels like a failure because he's not as successful as his father was or his brother is.

Yes, we are compatible in several ways. Right now, my lists are about the positives and negatives. I suppose I could make another list, but it may just confuse me even more. My list of negatives is enough for me to want to divorce him right now and is outweighing the positives.