Not my T, but my T's wife posted in a local Facebook I'm in for parents with kids on the autism spectrum, with ADHD, or other special needs. I didn't even know she was in the group, and it was a group I was in before starting to see my T (my daughter is on the autism spectrum). What's really odd, is I'd just put the group on "all notifications" after not getting much from the group. So, then his wife's post popped up in my notifications, which was a bit jarring....I didn't click on her profile, but I hovered over her profile photo and could see that her cover photo was a pic of her and my T and what appeared to be a formal event. I emailed my T to let him know, but I admit that first I looked at her previous postings in the group (again, not on her personal page, but in a group we were both in). He emailed to let me know she'd left the group and to thank me for not looking at her profile or earlier posts. I sheepishly admitted that I'd looked at some of her previous posts, and he said it was OK, because it was a group we were both in.

There's some backstory to why I looked at her posts. When I told ex-T that I was going to start seeing current T, she said, "Oh, he has a kid on the [autism] spectrum, too!" (They worked together at the same practice at one point). It was a few months before I mentioned this to him. He was bothered that she said something, but neither confirmed nor denied that it was true. He seemed to have a lot of knowledge about autism, so I just assumed that was accurate, but never asked him more about it. Months later, I forget what exactly I said, but something about his being able to relate to me due to his also having a kid on the spectrum (I've struggled with it quite a bit). And he said how he hadn't realized the "narrative" I'd built up about him (when I had no reason to think what I'd been told wasn't true?) He said that what ex-T had said could have been inaccurate/outdated information, that he wanted to protect his son's privacy.

So then a few months later, his wife's post popped up in what I had thought was mainly an autism group. And looking at what she said in her previous posts, I'm pretty sure that she at least thought at one point that their son was on the spectrum, though that could have changed (he's 12 now). But anyway, that was sort of a long post to say my own experience with social media and a T.