Sorry I recently saw this LilyMop. You haven't posted for a while but it is good to see your post.

I think we have both healed some from our family relationship issues. I have gotten better at figuring out what my stuff is verses what was their stuff. I now don't share as much as I used to because I am learning to be more careful about sharing other people's stuff and since some of my stuff and their stuff is commingled sometimes it is best to just keep quiet about my stuff.