He's now not sure about the chair from Target, so he bought me a nice gift instead. I thought it was really nice and sweet of him.

My compatibility lists are of important things, not silly things. Values, religious beliefs, political beliefs, how we treat others, etc.

That would bug me if we couldn't agree politically, and that would be a dealbreaker for me. But it's not for you, which goes to show that each person's dealbreakers are unique and personal to them.

My husband and I do not share the same religion (he is Jewish and I come from a Protestant background), but neither of us is particularly religious, and he does celebrate Christmas as well. So I do get to celebrate Christmas with him and have a tree, etc, which is all very important to me.

It's interesting to me that my list of compatibilities is far longer than my list of incompatibilities. But I still know my limits and dealbreakers.