IDK if my comparisons are helpful to you but— the first thing that set me off was him making a comment about me not being attractive and desirable while pregnant. It was due to his not initiating sex and me asking why.

I didn’t react to it at the time, but I did a few years later, when the sex situation got worse.

You mentioned a sex issue, too. I’m just wondering if the sex issue is an underlying bigger issue with your relationship overall issues. However, your husband really did make some comments that show not great character on his part. Racial slurs especially in the middle of the situation racially right now!?