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Old Jun 16, 2020, 06:48 AM
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Originally Posted by TishaBuv View Post
Yes, discuss it in therapy. I doubt he did it just to upset you. What would that gain him? Did he do it before or after your wedding?

Have you heard of ‘negging’? Do you think it was this?
“Negging is an act of emotional manipulation whereby a person makes a deliberate backhanded compliment or otherwise flirtatious remark to another person to undermine their confidence and increase their need of the manipulator's approval. The term was coined and prescribed by pickup artists.”
I believe he said this after our wedding sometime. Sometime in the last year.

He may not have said it to upset me per se, but it certainly made me feel TOTALLY insecure, and why else tell me his preference (a preference that I do NOT match) UNLESS he WANTS me to feel insecure and "less than"?

He is SUCH an a-s-s-h-o-l-e.

I am divorcing this bas-t-ar-d as soon as I am able to.
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