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Old Jun 16, 2020, 06:52 AM
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Originally Posted by TishaBuv View Post
IDK if my comparisons are helpful to you but— the first thing that set me off was him making a comment about me not being attractive and desirable while pregnant. It was due to his not initiating sex and me asking why.

I didn’t react to it at the time, but I did a few years later, when the sex situation got worse.

You mentioned a sex issue, too. I’m just wondering if the sex issue is an underlying bigger issue with your relationship overall issues. However, your husband really did make some comments that show not great character on his part. Racial slurs especially in the middle of the situation racially right now!?
We don't have a sex issue necessarily. Our sex is great between us and chemistry is good. But what he HAS done, is he has withheld sex from me, I believe as a way to punish me when I've questioned him on anything. He has done similar things in the past. Like turn his back towards me in bed when I've questioned him in any way about something. I am NOT allowed to question him, apparently, or else I get the cold shoulder, his back turned, lack of affection and lack of sex.

He's been making an effort sexually lately though, and there's been more of it lately.

But I think i am just done. I am NOT happy, I am miserable, and he is an abusive F who will not improve. It feels hopeless, and his comment about the hair will forever make me feel insecure with him. I cannot live like that.

That was mean of your husband to say to you, by the way. Very cruel.
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