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Old Jun 16, 2020, 06:57 AM
guy1111 guy1111 is offline
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Originally Posted by Have Hope View Post
I wrote a post on one of my women's emotional abuse forums on Facebook about the dark hair, dark eyes comment he made, and a whole slew of women said their husband or ex did the same exact thing to them.

I am now convinced he did this on purpose (either consciously or subconsciously) to make me feel insecure around him, which absolutely enrages me!!!!!
Im sorry. That sucks. It is a grieving process to realize that you are not perfectly everything your husband may want. We all have qualities that our mates do not find to be their best preference. I think you have two things going on here. Accepting that fact, and forgiving your husband for using it against you.

I can know that my mate prefers certain body features I do not have. I can also let go of the fact that they told me so in a hurtful way. Then I can begin to heal myself where this issue hurts me.

What area of your feelings does this hurt you the most?