Thread: Marriage may need to end: enormous grief and sadness
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Old Jun 16, 2020, 07:17 AM
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Im sorry. That sucks. It is a grieving process to realize that you are not perfectly everything your husband may want. We all have qualities that our mates do not find to be their best preference. I think you have two things going on here. Accepting that fact, and forgiving your husband for using it against you.

I can know that my mate prefers certain body features I do not have. I can also let go of the fact that they told me so in a hurtful way. Then I can begin to heal myself where this issue hurts me.

What area of your feelings does this hurt you the most?
Thank you.

What hurts the most? Is to know that my husband is deliberately trying to cut me down, put me down, make me feel "less than" and HURT me. That is NOT love. It is abuse.

I am fully realizing everything. It's taking me time to process and to come to this place.

I am in an abusive relationship, and I need OUT.
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Thanks for this!
guy1111