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Originally Posted by Have Hope
That's exactly 100% accurate. It never goes away for me. And no matter what he says to me, it doesn't make any difference for me. The comment was made, and damage was done.
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Yes. This topic brought sadness to me.
I am 54. I was married at a very young age (20) and was only married 5 years but I remember what he said, 30 years later. And I don’t tend to dwell. And don’t think of myself as less then. And we maintained good co parenting relationship and genuinely are friends. And I am happily married (and so is he) and YET when the topic comes up, I always always remember it. I think it’s wise you are talking to a therapist about it. I assumed because I moved on, it’s not something I need to even address it. I buried it and never tell anyone. And even when my ex repeatedly brought up that he wished he didn’t say some things, I said it’s water under the bridge. It kind of is but it’s not really what I should have said.
Do talk about it.
I don’t mean to hijack, just telling you I understand it and want you to share your therapist so it doesn’t hunt you