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Old Jun 16, 2020, 11:25 AM
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Originally Posted by Have Hope View Post
That's exactly 100% accurate. It never goes away for me. And no matter what he says to me, it doesn't make any difference for me. The comment was made, and damage was done.
Yes. This topic brought sadness to me.

I am 54. I was married at a very young age (20) and was only married 5 years but I remember what he said, 30 years later. And I don’t tend to dwell. And don’t think of myself as less then. And we maintained good co parenting relationship and genuinely are friends. And I am happily married (and so is he) and YET when the topic comes up, I always always remember it. I think it’s wise you are talking to a therapist about it. I assumed because I moved on, it’s not something I need to even address it. I buried it and never tell anyone. And even when my ex repeatedly brought up that he wished he didn’t say some things, I said it’s water under the bridge. It kind of is but it’s not really what I should have said.

Do talk about it.

I don’t mean to hijack, just telling you I understand it and want you to share your therapist so it doesn’t hunt you
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Have Hope
Thanks for this!
Have Hope