Dear bpcyclist, You describe my mother (parts of her), convenient memories, so she didn't feel guilty for extremely abusive things. And other people out there in life. You can't get through to their souls. One person in my life seemed to be without a soul. Was that his fault? I don't know. If he came into this world shortchanged, how could that be his fault? Since I don't know, I have to move on & let it go. I know it still hurts. But it is what it is. And you can have happiness anyway.