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Originally Posted by Have Hope
@ guy1111, you know, I was thinking a bit more on the communication blocks you have come across with your wife. It seems she approaches things from a position of immaturity. It seems she lacks the communication skills and tools that are necessary in order to discuss and work through any issues with you, which ultimately, will make a marriage fall apart in the end. I think that couples therapy could give your wife the tools she needs in order to be able to communicate more effectively and productively with you. And I'm afraid that without the assistance of a couples therapist, that you are going to continue to experience the same exact scenarios and will continue banging your head against the wall. This will only lead to further emotional distancing and shutting down on your end.... the marriage will suffer even worse if this keeps up. She really needs help in learning how to communicate. And I could say the same exact things about my own husband, who also has a lot of trouble with communication. |
Ya, no matter how much I grow, the further apart I get from her. This sucks. I feel crappy today because I finally got to see my therapist face to face and she linked alot of my insecurities back to childhood. I really didn't want to go there yesterday, but was brave and went ahead. Sure enough, today, I feel like I am no good. I was all psyched yesterday thinking I was strong and wise for going through therapy and tackling my issues head on. Today I just feel reminded that I had a crappy past and I have a lot more room to grow. Then my wife just blows me off today on the phone. I was kind of short with her when I hung up. I don't even know if she noticed. Even if she did she probably shrugged her shoulders and went on with her day. She just doesn't get me. Oh well. Keep moving forward I guess. I feel like just staying out of the house as long as I can tonight.