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Originally Posted by guy1111
Ya, no matter how much I grow, the further apart I get from her. This sucks. I feel crappy today because I finally got to see my therapist face to face and she linked alot of my insecurities back to childhood. I really didn't want to go there yesterday, but was brave and went ahead. Sure enough, today, I feel like I am no good. I was all psyched yesterday thinking I was strong and wise for going through therapy and tackling my issues head on. Today I just feel reminded that I had a crappy past and I have a lot more room to grow. Then my wife just blows me off today on the phone. I was kind of short with her when I hung up. I don't even know if she noticed. Even if she did she probably shrugged her shoulders and went on with her day. She just doesn't get me. Oh well. Keep moving forward I guess. I feel like just staying out of the house as long as I can tonight.
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Personally, I don't see the therapeutic benefit of turning one's childhood inside and out. I am more of a mindset to deal with the behaviors that are problematic NOW, and problem solve them. Your wife is triggering insecurity in you, and that's only natural because she seeks sexual flattery and attention from single men. To me, that doesn't have to do with childhood -- it's a natural reaction nearly almost anyone would have to this situation.
And the communication issues in your relationship are very real and problematic, and mainly on your wife's end of things. How is the therapist going to help you to problem solve those? By exploring your childhood?
But what do I know? I am not a therapist, though I almost became one and went to school for it.