Or possible to love someone, but treat them really badly?

Are there two hats we wear; loving, but then disliking or cruel?

To me, it feels like once you are feeling or being treated negatively you are not loving. It is what it seems. It is then negative and not love.

IME, I have been badly treated by people who claim to love me. I doubt their love is sincere, or they wouldn’t have treated me so badly. I don’t treat the ones I love badly, and if I do start to dislike and treat them badly, then I really don’t feel love anymore.

I’m interested in your thoughts.