My now wife and I have been together for 5 years... we are young. We got married right before we hit the 5 year mark and due to pandemic had to postpone the bigger wedding and settle for an elopement with friends. My wife has always struggled with expressing feelings and I’m a person that expresses them almost too much. We have had a constant libido battle and sex life has waxed and wained for a while but she was diagnosed with depression and is receiving treatment. About 3 weeks ago I made an error of judgement and since she was not expressing her feelings dove into her phone to see if she expressed them to friends. I was caught and thoroughly embarrassed lied about it. Fast forward to this Saturday and she tells me she is unhappy and doesn’t think the marriage is working. She states that I am unknowingly manipulative and controlling by the way I say things and that I am narcissistic and too money driven. She said she looked passed these flaws for years but she doesn’t know if she can any further. This is the first time I’ve been made aware that she feels this way and I believe our communication isn’t always the best. I believe that with a counselors help I can become more aware of how I say things to help her not feel these ways. Is this too much to ask? I don’t know if it will take long or be quick but I feel that our marriage deserves a chance to grow and get passed something before ending it. She is not the type to cheat and she even said I wasn’t worried about what you would find on my phone more about the fact that you did it and then lied to me about it. I just need to talk