Hello Thenewguy: I see this is your first post here on PC. Welcome to Psych Central. 
I'm not a mental health professional. However, based on what you wrote, it sounds to me as though marriage counseling would be a good step for the two of you to take (possibly some individual therapy for each of you as well.)
Here are links to 7 articles, from Psych Central's archives, that may be of interest:
9 Steps to Better Communication Today
7 Reasons to Seek Marriage Counseling
Top 10 Underpublicized Reasons to Seek Couples Counseling
Top Reasons Couples Fall Out of Love
4 Warning Signs Marriage Therapists Use to Predict Divorce
https://blogs.psychcentral.com/your-...omment-page-1/
https://psychcentral.com/blog/3-skil...-benefit-from/
I hope you find PC to be of benefit. 
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