I need some guidance, if anyone has any suggestions.
Some background: my partner and I have been married almost 6 years. For the past 1.5 years I've been feeling like I am not in love with him. I found a therapist who I get along with very well. This past Feb, I sat down with my partner and told him about my feelings. That I am not in love with him, but I still have love for him. I have to, we created a life together - our 4 year old son.
He was understandably upset. He wanted to do couple's counseling. I didn't want to leave right away because I wanted my son to know that I tried everything I could, and even then I was confused and afraid.
Then the lock down hit and I have been stuck in a house with him for three months.
He has been acting like nothing has changed. He acts like our marriage is fine, life is roses. He has tried to kiss me, grope me, and even tries to initiate while we sleep. I've turned him away each time. These don't feel like the actions of someone who understands that their partner is not in love with them.
My therapist says it could be a coping mechanism. He also tells me not to make a decision, to ride it out for now. I will ask him at our next session how long I'm supposed to just wait. It's really affecting me - my stress level, my sleep. I think about this all the time.
Any outside perspective would be greatly appreciated. I know this is a watered-down version of the whole story, so I can answer clarifying questions. I'm just more confused now than I was.
Thank you.
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