It's hard when one side won't communicate, I agree. I'm a communicator by nature and have a tendency to expect everyone else to be one as well.

I think, based on what you've said, that "not ready yet" is her lackluster way of saying "don't contact me again" with the caveat that when she needs/wants something from you, that you should plan to be available to her.

It sounds to me like your feelings are no priority to her and that your hopes of fixing things are really only a form of self-torture at this point. Again, I say, do you really want a "friend" who is willing and able to treat you this way?

I really had to reckon with the reality that my answer to that question was "no". I know that my friendship is worth more than that and I am blessed with several other friends, all of whom, have treated me far better for many years. I'll stick with those friends, myself.

I think also, that, that former friend of mine doesn't know how to be a real friend. Call it "social dwarfism", there are just people out there who will flit from person to person every time things fall out of the initial infatuation.

It's probably time for Impala to take care of Impala and not worry about that other person anymore. You can do it. It hurts, but honestly, it hurts less than wondering and worrying about the "what if" all the time.