Hope, remember that you have been down this road before and it all works out in the end. Try not to go down that path again. Do you know why he would not read your email in session? It doesn't seem to make sense but I'm sure you can work it out at your next session. Try to use some grounding skills in the meantime. You can't do anything to change things with your T until your next session. Focus on what you can do which is to work on yourself. As for his wife, try to remember that we can't control others, we only have control over our own reactions.

Personally, I have been working with the apps Shine and Calm. They both have free and paid versions. I have done them every day since lock down and have really noticed the improvement. You may want to look for some tools you can use to help build your tolerance of strong emotions. I know it is not easy but each journey starts with the first step.