Copied from my other thread:

The reason I won't pursue couples therapy right now:

IF he says no, then I've presented issues to him that are bothering me in the marriage that then have ZERO resolution to them.

Then I am forced to carry on as normal, with all the issues hanging out in the open, and with ME carrying the weight of those issues.

He will definitely ask, why do you want to go to therapy, and I will have to answer him.

The agreement was IF he blows up at me again, then we will go. So I will have to have reasons IF I bring it up NOW.

And IF I say, I am NOT happy in this relationship, there are several big issues here at play, and I feel that only a counselor can help us through these issues, and then he says NO? What am I left with?

Then I am forced to undergo a separation process within the apartment LONG before I am even ready or prepared to leave him for good. OR, I am forced to actually LEAVE HIM LONG before I have the money to do so.

I just don't see a good outcome from asking for that right now.