I have hard time wrapping my mind around restraint. Playing around laughing goofing with each other like a joke? If he is really restraining you, then I don’t know if it matters what’s his political views are. I don’t think length of a list matters as much as what’s on the list. You could have 50 items on a good list and one on a bad, and that one bad one would trump it. I’d not worry about lists.