I believe that family bond lasts forever but it’s a fantasy to expect it to go unchanged. As parents we can’t expect same bond with our children in adulthood as when they were two. There has to be amount of separateness and individualizations that we simply must accept no matter how hard it is. Fantasy bond does not exist. Real bonds do but they change and transform. No one belongs to anyone. Our kids will choose their lives and often times we wish they did something different but so what. They don’t belong to us. Yes family love is mostly forever but it must undergo changes. When we don’t accept change we bound to live life of misery and pain.