I'm 32, and single, I haven't had success with online dating either. Life is hard when we want to share our life with others but don't have the skills to do so. I feel like I'm never going to find a guy to marry because of my past and how I currently feel. I feel unlovable. Is that true?? NO. I can't get sucked in by the negative. I am a sex addict, and when I try to find love, I have the constant reminder that no one will love me because of how much I have screwed up! I have tried to make myself better, and I have spent 15 years with depression. I'm tired too!!

I know that life takes work, and so do relationships. My experience is similar to yours, but it is not yours. I am saying I can relate! And maybe that is enough.

For me, I"m afraid of being raped, and I let that influence my actions. I run away from relationships when things get difficult. Typing this has been helpful. I am scared of relationships, I'm afraid of getting hurt. I don't let people in, and that is only harming me. I need to make a goal around healing myself before seeking a relationship. I need to love me in order to love another. Is that the same for you?