@raging vortex, to piggy back on what Sometimes Psychotic and bpcyclist wrote, I think a new group would be a great idea. One place to consider might be Reddit.com. I just looked and there is a subreddit for incontinence there (A discussion group for those who deal with all forms of incontinence.). It's not particularly busy, but if you and some of your friends visited it, it would become busier. And one thing I know is that busy forums attract more and more people over time. There are surely a lot of people out there that wish there was a forum for their challenges. It must feel lonely for some people who think there's nowhere to go for support.

The only negative about Reddit.com is that there is "down voting" permitted, however I rarely see down voting happen in subreddits that are for support. I see more down voting on other categories of subreddits (i.e. political discussions and even the Cooking subreddit, since cooks all think they know how best to do things in the kitchen ). New subreddits can also be created if an existing one isn't a right fit. That would mean starting one anew. I know that Reddit.com has a number of bipolar disorder related subreddits. One is very meme-oriented, another more support-oriented, and a couple focus specifically on, say, bipolar 1 vs. bipolar 2, etc.

Just a thought to consider.

You are far from alone regarding issues with incontinence. My sister struggled with it for a very long time. She even had to have minor surgeries to sort of help with the issue. This started, I believe, when she was in her late 40s, or early 50s. She was young.