Sometimes I struggle with CBT. T is quite eclectic with her modalities but there have been times where she has used CBT and it felt totally invalidating. Once it caused an issue. To say I was angry is an understatement. She recognized it the end that while she should of been supporting me and hearing my pain she was using CBT.

Nailed it.

I'm feeling some benefit from CBT, but there's also a sticking point. I had not been able to name the problem until you named it. That's it: I feel like my therapist is using CBT (especially for teletherapy) as an alternative to doing trauma work (which we had been doing when the shut-down occurred) because CBT is what's available now. Not necessarily what's best for me, but the best she can do over the computer screen. For example, tools such as the sand tray obviously aren't available at this time.

I do feel benefit from CBT...just not quite enough. Or...not entirely "right." Where's anger supposed to go, for example? What happens to negative feelings when we do CBT work?

Now she will often say that she is going to utilize CBT so she is not invalidating my feelings and thoughts but is offering a different perspective. Still dislike CBT..

I understand. It's a positive, though, that she let's you know what her planned technique is. Do you still tell her that you don't like CBT or do you go along with it until she changes methods?

Thank you very much, nottrustin!