I was making Thanksgiving, as I have the big house and my mom has a small apartment. (This is the first problem as SHE wants to make Thanksgiving and be ‘in charge’). This struggle had already been an issue for my whole marriage with my mom and husband.

The weeks before the holiday we’d discuss how I’d make it at my house and she’d start obsessing over what she will be doing.

This was the year my son was diagnosed with Irritable Bowel Syndrome and was put on a gluten free diet. Mom said she heard of a bakery that made gluten free COOKIES (unaluna, lol). I didn’t hear the end about everything and the cookies turned into a fight, where she ended up getting herself uninvited from Thanksgiving and she threatened to show up at my door to leave the cookies.

Did I contribute to this toxicity? Yes. It’s ‘How do you deal with an impossible person?’. It caused me to have a severe depressive episode and desperately find this site to vent and get support where people said she is ‘so obviously a Narcissist’, which I had never heard of.

We had Thanksgiving without her and my step dad that year and it was pleasant.

Many months later, I asked her what became of the cookies as she never did leave them at my door . She said she refused to buy them because they were $5 each!