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Originally Posted by IceCreamKid
You are not providing enough information for me to give you more than general suggestions. You said you tried joining a club on campus...and? The club didn't meet? The people were rude? There were no women?
How about this--explore other clubs that interest you with an eye for them also being attractive to women. What about physical activities? Dancing? Singing? Films? Cooking? Service projects?
Are you greeting people and talking to people when you are in group situations? You will have to put yourself out there. I am in a group; I have not met a love match but I have made friends, and I did that by showing up, paying attention to what other people were saying, what their interests were, expressing my interest and asking them to elaborate on theirs and being pleasant and agreeable. <---people like that. I hope for the best for you. Keep trying.
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The club(s) met I just felt I couldn’t really fit in. I tried talking to people but it was just awkward and I didn’t really make any friends in the few weeks I went. I didn’t feel I fit in with the group. I would often keep to myself and just not talk to anyone because I was just too scared to really do anything about it. I couldn’t find common ground for topics to talk about. You’d think that I would because its a club where people share common interests. Nope, didn’t turn out to be the case.
Women weren’t even my priority, I just couldn’t make any connections, and because I felt so awkward and out of place, I just stopped going. I gave up. Because it was mentally straining to go and just sit there quietly because I was too anxious. Even when I go out with friends now I shut down and don’t really talk to anyone because I just can’t relate to people and I’m not confident in my ability to socialize. I guess thats a really deep self esteem issue. In the end, I have zero self esteem, zero self confidence, and I hate myself in almost every regard. So yeah I guess thats whats stopping me.