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Originally Posted by divine1966
Your mom probably didn’t know all the details. Plus really who listens to other people about relationships? especially to ones parents? Lol You did receive some suggestions on PC about putting wedding on hold. And I don’t blame you for not listening! It’s common to be upset with people suggesting you leave a relationship or your spouse isn’t the right choice or you have to put it on hold. You can only do it when you are ready yourself. Then we might be ready to listen to others, but we have to be ready to listen. At that point you weren’t. And it’s common
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You know, this is one of the wisest statements: “you can only do it when you’re ready yourself”.
And “we have to be ready to listen.”
Sooooo true! This is true for any of us on here struggling. We have to be ready and willing to hear the feedback we may not want to hear.
And you’re right. Back then, before marriage I wasn’t ready to hear it. I didn’t want to hear it.
And now? Now I’m more willing. It doesn’t make it any easier, but I’m more ready to face this than I was.
Ugh.
My girlfriend also said I have to prepare myself for hell. She said I need to do everything in my power now to strengthen myself and to strengthen my mental health as well as my resolve.
She is also testimony to the fact that you can find love at any age. She fell in love again at the age of 68!! She doesn’t want me to be afraid of being single again. She is a source of strength for me right now. We may go kayaking together soon. She thinks I need to get out more and do things with friends more in order to help strengthen me. And I agree!