I was using the idea of lightness not in terms of the content of a session (games or questions/answers) but with the idea that you could hold things more lightly. For example, accepting that sometimes the intense connection cannot be present because she is a human with shortcomings or that sometimes you can't prescribe the outcome of sessions because you can't control her reactions. I don't know. I feel relief in trying to accept that the highs and lows, the natural ebb and flow of a relationship. I try and appreciate the organic nature of that way of being.