Ah. That makes sense. Before the virus, I never really planned sessions. I didn't need to. Everything was pretty consistent. She met most, if not all, my needs that she was capable of meeting. Sometimes more! I was pretty secure in our relationship. Sure I had questions and fears that would be new to the relationship (i.e. talking about love), and I would post them here, but after spending a session or two on it, things would calm back down. I've been with L for over a year now, and my relationship with her is normal very stable, safe, and secure. But since the virus, I feel like I've been pining for more connection, love, affection, stability, security, safety, etc. It's actually the in-person sessions messing me up. I do fine with in-person or video, but not both. When I finally see her in-person, I panic and feel rushed. Things are dire, pressured. I don't really care too much what we do or talk about, but I have this urgent feeling that I must get those needs met, I must feel a deep connection, otherwise I'll have to wait for another x weeks.

How do I lighten my expectations of in-person sessions?