I think your letter is very reasonable and mature. Giving him a chance to explain himself while also expressing your hurt and what he does that hurts your feelings.

I do commend you for remaining level headed in what has clearly been an emotional time for you.


I do have to wonder though if you have already said all of these things to him in person? If so, I find it unlikely the letter will change much. I wouldn't have much expectation that it would change anything.

Either way, I don't see the harm in not sending the letter. Not just because of the chance he may take to try and improve or at the very least, discuss things, but also because you opened up the option of ultimately ending the relationship.

I do agree with woven that you should consider ending it should nothing good come out of it. I mean, after that letter I'm at a loss as to what more there would be to do other than the obvious if he doesn't address anything you say.