no offense taken Coral.. in answer.. i dont see it either, but that is exactly what has happened..

i wont say that Mom ever said in exact words to give up my life for her...

its the feeling i've had inside as i've watched her suffer.. i am compelled to help her.. at any cost to me...

i have to say, i cant do it much longer... all the kids have grown and moved on except me now... my turn may be coming..