Hi--
Back when I was married, to someone who became more and more abusive as the years went by (10 of them) I can tell you that marriage counseling works better for two people who both accept responsibility for working together--as partners--on fixing a marriage. You're very perceptive here--it took me a few counseling sessions to figure out that these sessions were useless. As soon as I said anything that my wife disagreed with she'd explode. Our last session with our first therapist ended when the counselor threatened to call security because my wife was so out of control with rage. I could never say how I really felt or what I thought or what I wanted or needed, so it was really just an hour of pleasant chitchat.

Hopefully your counselor will pick up that there is a problem and do individual sessions.

They have probably seen a lot of couples and ought to quickly recognize what kind of couple you are.