For the fun of it, I was looking up Avoidant Personality. Found an on-line test. Took it, slightly Narcissistic, I felt, no way, I do consider myself empahetic. Took another test...Came back with Histrionic. And as I read more and more....well...what can I say? I felt that it suits me well.

Symptoms
DSM-IV-TRlists eight symptoms that form the diagnostic criteria for HPD:

Center of attention: Patients with HPD experience discomfort when they are not the center of attention. {Can this be why I tend to be that 'quiet' observer in places not my own?}
Sexually seductive: Patients with HPD displays inappropriate sexually seductive or provocative behaviors towards others. {well,certainly not ALLthe time,lol...but there are times I flirt a bit and can 'cross' that line}
Shifting emotions: The expression of emotions of patients with HPD tends to be shallow and to shift rapidly.{I've never considered myself as shallow, but yes my emotions, if shallow can shift quickly---I mean if I'm primarily happy, if can go from good to joyous to ecstatic}
Physical appearance: Individuals with HPD consistently employ physical appearance to gain attention for themselves. {well, I dont fully know about this...I maintain appearance and look nice...consider myself a plain jane of sorts?}
Speech style: The speech style of patients with HPD lacks detail. {I guess I don't fully open up to others quickly or I hold back thoughts, etc? Maybe I do leave out details?}
Individuals with HPD tend to generalize, and when these individuals speak, they aim to please and impress.{sure}
Dramatic behaviors: Patients with HPD display self-dramatization and exaggerate their emotions. {Compared to the 'average' person...yes my emotions can come off dramatic and over-the-top}
Suggestibility: Other individuals or circumstances can easily influence patients with HPD. {Yeah...to a point...}
Overestimation of intimacy: Patients with HPD overestimate the level of intimacy in a relationship{So true!}

I guess there's not much out there except years of psychotherapy and assertiveness training with some specialized CBT in the mix. Ayyyy....

WOW....and all this time I'd been leaning towards bpd,but that doesn't quite fit the bill for myself....Disassociation comes with this...lovely....