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Originally Posted by divine1966
Try not to feel guilty. It’s not like you are trying to take advantage of him by doing something sneaky, withdrawing and hiding money from mutual accounts and selling his stuff in secret or looking for his replacement. All you are doing is weighing options. He isn’t a child or disabled and he isn’t being abandoned. He is a grown man.
And I might be wrong but he doesn’t sound like a person you can amicably separate in the same household and peacefully discuss you considering divorce. I don’t see it’s happening. In those circumstances what you are doing is the only safe option
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You're right, and thanks Divine.
No, this wouldn't be amicable if I told him now. Not at all. It would become a living nightmare for the next 10-12 months. I know I could not endure that.
I do think it's for the best, for my own sake and his, that I don't tell him until it's time.
Other people online are telling me he doesn't need to know... the justification also being that he helped to create this nightmare for me that I am living in right now, so why should I make it even worse for myself than it already is? I like that reasoning.
And I
am already living in hell right now.