I was just thinking of someone who has one parent who is white and one who is black, and looks black. I have a friend in that situation. Her son is happy with his black identity.

I think it would depend on what race the person looks like. Many people are of mixed races these days from somewhere down the line. And there are versions of black from being very dark to being very light-skinned.

Please help me to understand. I want to help, not sound biased or ignorant about these things. I thought things would get better with Obama's situation. I see lots of mixed race couples these days. Are they condemning their children to identity issues?

I know we had one member a while back who was upset about his mixed identity. He told me he was white and something else--but he never wanted to tell me what the something else is.

And I also have a friend with a white and Chinese grandchild. Will that child likely have problems? One of my sons might date and even marry a black woman. Is that a bad idea for his children?

I have noticed difference in "cultures" depending on how one identifies--such as dress and kind of music one listens to--and even how one talks to each other. If only we could be more accepting, so it wouldn't seem to be "bad" to be black or non-white in the U.S. and other such countries. I gather, Nos-Nos, that you would prefer a "white" identity?