Thanks. It is very tempting to do a risk assessment especially because I am a therapist (alternative prayer-based) who works at a counseling center. But because I am not a psychiatrist or a clinician I don't have the knowledge I need for this. If clients come to me with this kind of issue I refer them to a coworker for assessment. Besides, this is someone I thought I loved.
I talked to my bf over the phone yesterday afternoon and told him I needed him to get assessed. He was surprised but as I explained he understood and agreed. For that reason, and that reason alone, I did not break up with him. Not yet.
I am also seeing my therapist on Saturday, and will talk to him about this at length. There is no way I am ignoring this, and I am prepared to break up. Just horribly disappointed about it. I am 41, single, never married and have had a whale of a time finding a good man. And I thought I had found one. T.T