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Originally Posted by divine1966
There are more red flags here than on May Day parade on Red Square in Moscow. I’d not try to guess if he is dangerous. You might never know. Until it’s too late
He might not be violent towards you though. Lots of serial killers and gangsters are loving towards their families. Him loving his dogs or cats is neither here nor there. Hitler loved his pets. Psychopaths and sociopaths are often unable to connect to other humans so they find substitutes in pets and are known to be loving towards them. it doesn’t make them less dangerous.
We can’t tell you what to do but I think you can have a happy life with a more suitable partners. This man isn’t commitment material. Would you want kids with him? I hope not
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I thought I did - we had discussed marriage and children. Regarding the pet thing, I had been reading that serial killers would torture animals. That's why I mentioned that detail, but I didn't know about finding substitution and that scares me. Because he has told me that he talks to his dog more than he talks to anyone, except me.
Re happy life with a more suitable partner - true. It doesn't feel true as a never married 41 year old woman who is a racial minority in a country whose culture frowns on interracial relationships. But I am also very happy on my own.