hi lady and welcome

maybe now that the kids will be gone, you and hubby can get to know each other again? have either of you considered marital counseling?

i understand "if you're done, you're done" though. about 10 yrs ago, hubby and i split up for three mos. a friend told me...."if many ppl put 1/10 into their existing relationship of what it takes to begin and maintain a new relationship, the existing one would be 80% better." i saw a great logic in that. we're now married 18 yrs.

however, i was divorced once. i understand being done as well. no one knows but you how "done" you are. follow what you need to do for yourself.

i wish you well on this.