@guy1111, put downs, criticisms and cutting remarks disguised as jokes are a part of an abuser's abuse tactics. This has been ongoing since the beginning of our marriage. I've told him numerous times that I do not like these kinds of jokes made at my expense, and his response is always "I'm just joking". So I tell him "well, I am NOT laughing" and "please cut it out."

These types of jokes are intended to demean and belittle the abuse victim and to cut down their self esteem. I will not allow this to happen, however.

@divine1966, I can see the similarities between your own father and my husband. If I could leave him and get out TODAY, I would.