So, met with T Monday. He did not come right out and say he had read any of my emails but his behaviors made it very obvious that he had read them and he was trying to do better. We didn’t talk about any of the specifics of the previous session (and, in all fairness I had made all my complaints clear in the emails) but we did talk all the emotions from last week. I do think I figured out at least part of the issue with falling asleep and had to laugh but decided against saying anything. I’ve been making masks for a local group that gives them out to businesses and organizations that need them. Long story short I think T ended up with masks I made and the bag would have had my last name on a paper inside of it and he knew I was making masks. Anyway, the ones he is using, if mine, are quilting cotton and quilting flannel. So they are hot and a little hard to breathe through... added to a warm office I can see more yawns and nodding off. I can also see where, if he knows I made them, saying some of it was the masks would be an issue.
He was able to accommodate about half of the requests I made that I thought would help. One of the ones was to bring back the cards we used at the start of sessions. He now goes through them one at a time and I say yes or no rather than picking them up. As much as I HATED those D* cards that seems to be a big enough piece of what was missing that things went much, much better. He also told me the name of the cards so I can find my own if I want seeing as they help so much. Unfortunately they are out of print and hard to come by... so we will see what I can pull off.
He also set some boundaries which actually felt reassuring right now, talked to 8 and let her know they were OK and she is safe with him and told me why he had to be so very firm with me on some of the boundaries he has set.
Overall I think things went well, progress was made and I think we are back on track.