angela, i think this is a toughie. i don't have a healthy relationship with the mother here, but i would like to answer according to my relationship with my own daughters as they've grown into adults.

i share more with them, yes, as they've grown. i try to not talk to them about anything that might make them feel that they have a responsibility towards me. to answer this, i think it depends on the individual relationship...what it was for the child and how it's developed. what may be "average" for one relationship, may not be for the next.

having said that, i think boundary line should be drawn on anything that makes you feel uncomfortable. if it's uncomfortable for you to hear something from her, then i think you should heed that and set boundaries for that particular discussion. am i making ANY type of sense? i feel like i'm rambling today...

love,