I also have an alter that used to be dangerous to the body but she has settled down after I actually listened to her and started appreciating/paying attention to her views.

Of course I don't know what the case is in your situation, it may be more complex than just listening to what the other one has to say.

I've heard about "lockdown" in this book called "Got Parts?" but it sounds really scary to me, and I don't even know how it works. If you want, I can PM you the chapter of the book so maybe you could discuss it with your T.

As Kiya said, it's really important to let someone know.

Much, much strength to you.