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Originally Posted by LonelyWithYou
That fact that he was in a gang and his past abuse does make him dangerous but he also could be really trying to better himself. Go with your gut feeling in this situation. Have you talked to him about this and the way you're feeling? Why does he feel like he'll end up a serial killer is he really that angry at someone. Who would he want to kill and why? You need to find out those questions. Honestly if someone I was dating told me that I'd be really freaked out because I would not want to be with someone who wants to hurt other people.
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Yes, I absolutely need to ask these questions.
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Originally Posted by MsLady
I agree. It also doesn't address the "serial killer" issue. If he has that much control to just shut it off in his head, he wouldn't feel he "will" be one, one day.
Also, what makes me uncomfortable is the flexibility of his time. He's an entrepreneur so he's often at "work" and you don't live together because you're both Christians. There's nothing wrong with this under any other circumstances but due to this truth, how would you know he hasn't acted on anything yet? Are you confident he's been where he's said he's been?
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I'm not confident he's been where he says he's been at all times. I have no way of confirming it. We live 3 hours apart by public transport. I have never been to his company or met his employees. Nor his Kung Fu brothers. I have only met his family, his business network friends, and his church small group. He has never met my family, and has met only a handful of friends. They all liked him overall but he was so painfully shy around them, they wouldn't be able to guage his character.
We talk about schedules in the sense of - so how was your day? Or what did you do today? When he does share his details are consistent. But there are many times where he says what he did was boring. Or he just wants to pray.
Our time is very controlled, which didn't concern me before, but does now. He gives me exactly 30 minutes per phone call. 15 to talk about life, 15 to pray together. He has said he wants to call me every day. It's ended up about 4 times per week. I stopped initiating phone calls ages ago because his lack of responsiveness stressed me out. We have exactly one date a week. It was 6 hours, but over the last 6 months has dropped to 3. He has changed the day of the date 3 times in the last year, due to his work schedule. I fortunately have a very flexible schedule so I have been able to deal with it. But this thought - I just can't even process.
Two more days until I can see my therapist. The pain I am feeling is off the charts. I am barely sleeping or functioning. I just can't believe this is happening.