Right now I am handling the death of a family member who for complicated reasons triggers some of my trauma. Because of choices I made 8 years ago I am the sole decision make for this person. I am grateful for the opportunity to ensure she had the best life possible. Right now is excruciatingly hard but still worth it. When I had my appointment with T yesterday she was wonderful. She told me if I needed to chat to reach out to her. I did at 2:30 today.

T and I have always known that she is not the greatest at che king her business phone especially when she is enjoying family time (she has a husband and 4 year old child).

She texted me back at 8:00 saying she had been out doing family stuff all day and was exhausted. She was getting ready for bed but asked if we could talk at a specific time.

Since my biggest fear is being too nerdy and interrupting her life I said of course. However , because of all the time it had taken, I have buried all the emotions and am leary of dredging it back up. On the other hand I will still meet to make difficult decisions.

Would you tell her you are all set which is my instinct or follow through??